Catching Up

Once I've gotten behind in something I find it extremely hard to catch up with! Whether it's house cleaning, or keeping up with friends... It's better just to stay on top of things! I've been dealing with some serious motivation issues this week. It is just waay to easy to stay in my pj's and surf the net rather than being productive! And for that reason my kitchen is a mess, and there are bird feathers slowly creeping out all over the house, clean laundry is piled up waiting to be put away... ooh it just adds up!
I'm building a good friend base here, but it's hard to do so since a lot of people are just here to then leave as soon as they or their spouse are done with school. I've always been bad about making friends at work. I don't know what to say or do! I lived in such a bubble around my church life, I've never had a close friend (that  I hung out with) outside of work. Sure I've gotten along with colleagues fine - I've just never made that cross over before. But I'm thinking that's the group that I need to make friends out of - since my other friends are just going to up and leave here soon! Ugh!
That or I should just transport all my good friends here.... hmm...
Another thing has been bothering me lately. It's funny how seemingly small in and of themself problems can take over your life - especially when it affects your spouse as well when dealing with depression. Luckily things have been resolved (for the time being) concerning one problem, but I'm just waiting for the next one to crop up! Is that so bad of me?

February 11

Life sure is busy right now! I have family in town (they came in yesterday and today!) and am trying very  hard to stay positive and not get snippy with everyone around. It's very hard to do! But I take a breath and STOP for just a moment and then keep going. Work is crazy, but it reminds me to be thankful for my health and my supportive family. I so don't feel like reading devotionals, journaling, or blogging today. I was doing pretty good with working out - I will have missed Thursday and today, but will walk tomorrow morning, or hike in the afternoon. It's hard sometimes to exercise - but I'm getting to the point where I can workout for longer, and miss it when I don't do it. I think it's starting to grow on me - maybe!

Motivators

This year I am making it a year of me - I am focusing on my health (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual) so that I can be a better person, wife, and eventually, a healthy mother. It is extremely important to me that I am a well mother for my children - not just phycially, but emotionally too. I want to give my future offspring the best I can of myself - and my husband too! He deserves the best I can be, since he is so great to me.
SO I have taken control of my diet - allowing myself a cheat day once a week (usually sabbath,a nd even then its not very bad), started daily devotions, this blog, a new medication, new supplements, and started exercising. No I don't believe there is any secret fix all for depression, but I am trying to find the combination that works for me. Things that I can do to help myself. Now all of them have come fairly easy, except the exercising. I haven't committed to doing it daily - almost daily, but not daily, and not for as long as I prolly should. Up to this point I have been working out at least 30 min 3-4 times a week. Now thats not too shabby, but I want to lose weight. And weight I am not losing exercising that amount. Today I had a chance to talk to a friend and mentor, and she started running a year ago. Now she is running a lot - training for a full marathon! She is such an inspiration! She also reminded me that an hour of exercise a day every day of the week is what we SHOULD be getting. OK, I thought, so here is another goal. An hour of exercise everyday - and some sunshine everyday! So I will be starting to blog about that as well. Or, at least blog about me trying it! To start that goal, I am going to the gym with a friend in a few minutes. It's after 8 pm in the evening, but better late than never! I really want to make this year of my life count - I really want to make changes that will contribute to a healthy life down the road. I love my parents - but I don't want their health habits to follow me through my life. No diabetes for me! It runs strong on both sides of the family. My sisiter and I both know that it is very possible for us to make enough slip ups to land right in the middle of diabetes - health habits play just as an important part as genetics for most of us. I want to make my life my own, and to be happy and healthy for the rest of my life. I want to be healthier than I have ever been - and I'll admit skinnier too :-) who wouldn't want to be! when the smallest I've been is a size 8, I think I have room to lose a few sizes currently (pushing into a solid 10 currently - and not happy about it at all!).
When I met with my current psychiatrist for the first time, he asked me, "If I was a genie and could grant you a wish right now, what would it be?" "to lose 20 pounds" I responded. I didn't even hesitate. I also didn't even think about wishing away my depression - or anything else! I think about my weight, my size, that often! It's horrible but true! I get so down when I can't wear clothes I want - less than half my current wardrobe fits right now. and that's depressing. So between my clothes, my family history, my current state, and my future wants and desires - and children - those are my motivators.

LIttle Miracles

My current position on having children is - yes, I want, and yes I am more than willing to carry them, but I don't want to give birth to them.  I kinda just want to skip that part! Blech! What is a amazing tho is seeing ultrasounds of little babies cooking inside their mommas. Thinking of my sisters pregnancy and being able to see pictures of the little bean - head, body, little nubbins of arms and legs, and a heart pumping away when the whole kit-n-kaboodle was smaller than a strawberry. Amazing. Simply amazing.
Miracles are things working out when least expected, that home run at the bottom of the inning, the I-didn't-mess-anything-up-at-work-today feeling when clocking out and going home. It's the little things in life that make it better, make it special. Sure traveling overseas is nice, but it's coming home to a purring kitty that makes home special. Having a husband around to make me clean things up, knowing that he cares about me and our future together. Maybe some more little miracles are in our not-so-near future!
Little miracles are having enough energy to keep going through the day, being sleepy but realizing I don't HAVE to take a nap to make it to the end of my shift. Feeling better, that is a current "little miracle" for me. I feel better, and moreover, I feel. Often with depression it's hard to "feel" - with me, I just want to withdraw and not pay attention to anyone or anything. What I have a house that needs to be cleaned? A husband that could use a hot meal and a conversation? So? But when I am feeling better, I want to do these things - I CARE about them. I want to take care of myself - my body, my spirit, my mind. I care about setting goals and reaching them. Small interventions can have large outcomes once they are added together

February 3

I tied the toe tag on. I'd never done that before. If you have ever read "the Body Farm" or "Stiffs" it gives you an idea about the life after death of bodies and their uses/purposes for science. Symbolically, to me, tying on the toe tag is it. You're a goner, you've gone, vamoosed, expired, died, left your earthly shell, there is nothing left but body - no soul, no life, no breath. It's a humbling experience. I don't think I'll forget some of the people I have been there with when they have died. Working as an EMT, there are a few. I can understand why some woluldn't want to be a nurse, EMT, MD, whatever. Working that closely with people that you see them born into this world, you see them grow, and then - die. To me, that's whate being a nurse/EMT is about. You help people, you touch them when they are sick, lonely, hurt, dying, and dead. It's not always pleasant, it's possible to carry around their memory - the last gasps, blown pupils, and other foulness that sometimes accompanies the few moments before death. Or, you use it to do better for the next person, the next patient. Each experience is just that, and experience. Not something to carry around with you for life.
Some hospitals are overly religious - Catholic, Adventist, Baptist, or very non-religious. Whether the hospital allows it or not, I say a prayer for most patients, quietly, in thought. When working a  code, I'm praying the whole time! Not always a prayer that would bear repeating to my mother, but an expression of my emotions and thoughts to my heavenly Father.
Being in the health care system is my calling I believe. Helping, touching, allowing healing, these are the things I realize to be necessary to my practice. I have to let go of the emotions that come with it eventually. There are moments of tears and laughter, but those moments have to belong to themselves. I can't carry those tears around with me for the rest of my life. I realize why it saddens me - a life to early severed? a child left without a father? an elderly wife seperated from her lifetime partner? did I screw something up? should I have called earlier? am I using this time to express emotions connected to something else?
Whatever the reason, these emotions are expressed and moved past.
The next patient comes is...

First Day

Well, today was my first day on the floor at my new job as an EMT at an emergency department close to where I live. Whew! It's been awhile since I've done a 12 hour shift! I needed a foot rub when I got home, and luckily my husband was obliging :) for once. I couldn't sleep last night - tossed and turned and ended sleeping on the couch. Ick! Everyone I met today was nice - save for one of the docs being - well - a doc :) I have more experience than he does! Oh well... I am still learning a lot. This ER is soo different from the ER I worked at before. Same kinda of people, but different layout and setting.
I have said before that I don't like people, and that's not entirely accurate. When I am dealing with a person one on one, I appreciate them and treat them the best that I can. I do have to work at keeping going - I would fall asleep on the job if I let myself! I am too willing sometimes to let others do the work - but maybe I just forget the times where I take the lead and get things done.
Ooofda I am tired!

Date Night!!

Woo hoo! I got a date tonight! With my husband :) It's amazing to me that a simple date to Starbucks and a short walk will improve my mood. If felt like we were actually dating again! Oh, young romance (we've only been married for less than a year :D ).
I have been having very vivid dreams - not just occassionally, but the last 3 nights in a row. One or two isn't odd, but more than one night in a row is! They have a common theme - I'm captured and I have to escape somehow, but there is always a bad guy trying to get me, or I'm in a jail, or I'm stuck on an Island... They're kinda weird. I wake myself up sometimes, roll over and put my arm around my husband to remind myself I AM safe in bed in my own little room. I'm thinking that these new dreams are a side effect of a new med that I started about two weeks ago - Abilify (not I do NOT have schizophrenia!). They have found (in a study or two) that Abilify works as an adjunctive therapy with major depressive disorder (MDD), and at lower doses than used therapeutically with schizophrenics. I have been on Cymbalta for almost a year, starting at 30 mg daily then bumping up to 60 mg daily after 8 months or so. I have had good results - I do have more energy being on the Abilify (or the B super complex I started this last week as low - my B12 level was low).
If you are deficient in B12 it can mimic depression - lethargy, fatigue, depressed mood, withdrawal. And those are all things that I have had to deal with!
I got to spend some face time, on Skype, with a friend from nursing school. It was great to spend time talking to a good friend - someone who is like sister and cares for me like sister. We chatted about school, boys (new boys for her!), fun places in California, and planned a potential Spring Break trip. If only all of our dreams could come true! That would be SOOO amazing. But then, I prolly wouldn't be stuck at work for the next 40+ years of my life. Blech.
I also baked bread (i'm getting the hang of it - finally!), straightened up a bit, and did a lot of nothing. Oh the life of a married, part time working wife! Did I mention I ate bread as well? :D

Little Things

It's funny how in life we get caught up over little things - tripping over shoes, someone driving slow in front of us when we have no where to be, being a cloudy day instead of a sunny day. If only... we could remember what was important in life and think about those things instead! If only... we would realize no one will probably be able to tell you didn't brush your teeth before going to the super market, that our house is a mess when we are at church, no one cares if our car is over a decade old, and that we buy our clothes off the sale rack instead of paying full price. No one really cares about those things! We shouldn't sweat what no one will remember tomorrow! All we are doing is tripping our selves up over nothing - that effort could instead be used to plan out our day, or organize the closet that really does need to be cleaned out.
Taking a moment to prioritize my thoughts helps me for the whole day. Once I think about all I need to get done, worrying about something that will never happen seems pretty insignificant. And it goes to the bottom of my "to do" list. If you are like me, sometimes there are thoughts floating around in your head that have no right to be there. "I'm not worth it," "I'm too goofy for anyone to ever take me seriously enough to give me the kind of job I want," or my all time favorite, "It doesn't matter that I'm here, or that I'm not there." The truth is - Yes! you ARE worth it, goofiness is acceptable, and it does matter to those that care about you if you are around or not. Negative thoughts are only there to sabotage all the good things that we can do - so we must choose to think positive thoughts.  Thoughts uplifting to our soul. Thoughts that will drive us in the right direction in life.
These little things may not seem like much, but the little things are what drag us down, day after day, after day. Little things gradually add up to big things, so it's important to take charge of them. If there has to be little things in your life, make them positive little things!